Losing Your Virginity – What no one tells you
Losing your virginity can be hella scary, especially when you’re a girl.
I lost mine at 18 and it was honestly scary, and weird… lol
I didn’t really feel pleasure because my brain was focusing on the fact that a guy’s penis was entering my vagina… for the first time… and after this, there is no going back.
Before surrendering myself to the guy I believed was my “errythang” I thought about this decision over and over again. We already had participated in other forms of sexual interaction and I felt like I was ready but it still is scary especially because of what society says about women.
“Women lose their value once they lose their virginity” or, “you must stay with the same man you first slept with” or “if you sleep with more than one person you’re a slut or whore or dirty.”
So I was scared and didn’t want any of those labels.
I learned now that theses things are all lies and is super stupid to believe. Your value as a woman doesn’t change based on how many guys you decided to have sex with. You’re still the same ol you.
Here are some things no one tells you about losing your virginity:
It does hurts: It kind of feels like cramps inside of you but after a while it stars to feel good once you loosen up, it hurts because of tension, but once you relax it will all start to feel super amazeballs.
Not everyone bleeds: I didn’t bleed the first time I had sex. My ex thought I was lying about being a virgin but I was and I just didn’t bleed lol.
Your walk doesn’t change: People keep saying that the way you walk changes once you have sex but believe it or not, it doesn’t. I would say that if you have anal sex it could affect your walk and so does having an amazing and powerful orgasm. But just fucking doesn’t do shit really.
You can get pregnant: If you never had Sex Ed before, once sperm enters the vagina you’re prone to pregnancy. Sperm isn’t going to say “omg we can’t impregnate because it’s her first time.” Sperm doesn’t work like that, so use protection unless you want a baby.
You can catch an STI/ STD: Just because you have sex once doesn’t mean you’re not prone to catching diseases thats why I recommend condoms. In my personal opinion I believe condoms should always be apart of your sex life because usually in young couples cheating can happen. So protect yourself and don’t feel pressured into removing the condom because the guy said so, make sure you feel comfortable enough that you no longer what condoms apart of your sex life.
You can lose your virginity whenever you want: Losing your v-card should be a decision that YOU make, not anyone else. It doesn’t matter if your best friend lost hers yesterday, or your boyfriend really wants to have sex, or because everyone else did it, but it’s because you want to. You’re in control of your own body so do what feels right to you.
*Read: How to Engage in Safe Sex*
I hope this helps someone lol
Thanks for reading