When people first started to ask me where and how I met my current lover, I kind of felt embarrassed to say. I started trying to think up lies and fake stories. I even spoke to my boyfriend about it too. When I asked him what he told people about where we met, he said he was too embarrassed to explain it. We were both ashamed to say that we met online.
Most people will say that they met their boyfriend from school, a party, or within their friend group, but rarely do I hear people say I met my boyfriend from this weird app where you judge if their hot or not. It’s a really uncomfortable thing to say. (Although I’m feeling a little more fine with saying it after reading a few stories on online dating.) It’s actually pretty common now, to meet a potential lover online. There’s really nothing bad about dating online…
- Catfish (guilty)
- Horny old dudes (and young dudes)
- Predators – murders, child molesters, stalkers, etc.
- Just creepy people in general
These are the people who just make online dating such a misery especially horny people. I’ve met probably over 1000 people online who were asking for nudes like the second I said hi. Then once you say I don’t send nudes, they just ignore you. It’s like dude, is that all you want damn.
I like to troll those people and as entertainment I pretend to create their fantasies. Hence, the catfishing. Although that is pretty entertaining, it can be frustrating trying to find “the one” online. To tell you the truth there’s actually no way to stop creeps from being on this site, or to totally avoid them.
Just pay attention to the signs:
- Ask for nudes *block*
- Ask for school address/ home address/ work address — any address *block*
- Ask what you’re wearing *block*
- Ask anything sexual with 2 seconds of meeting *block*
Also don’t be so quick to just give out your personal things:
- Phone number
- Social media pages you frequently use
Here’s why you cannot give them out so quickly, If you were to give a random person your number it could be an actual predator that can have hacking things to stalk you and the locations of where you use your phone and end up creeping on you. Also, it can be annoying getting text or calls from a guy you end up not clicking with.
Moreover, because of how people love to post where they’re at and what they’re doing, if you’re that kind of person, sharing your frequently used social media with a stranger can risk you being stalked in real life. If you’re a girl you’ll know what I’m talking about when I say that it’s easy to find out anything and everything about a person. 😉
So, unless you feel as though you know this person well enough to trust them then you can give out your personal things.
*Just Be SAFE and TRUST YOUR GUT!*
Anyways, most people pay for actual websites to meet people… Don’t do that it’s ridiculous. Hot or Not is a good app, Tinder is pretty good too. I’m sure there are many more websites and apps for online dating but those are my 2 favorites. Also when trying to find “the one” you should create a kik account so that way you can keep those stalkers away from your “real life” it’ll also be easier to contact other users without special promotion or “luck”. Leave your kik in your bio and I’m sure you’ll get tons of people in your inbox.
So ladies and gentlemen, get out there and don’t be shy to online date, I met 2 great friends I still talk to ’till this day, and my awesome current boyfriend. There’s nothing to be ashamed of, have a little fun.
Have fun finding your needle in a haystack, it’ll all be worth it… hopefully… I mean it was pretty worth it for me. Hahaha
Thanks for reading! <3 Would you online date? Why or why not?